Ok I had a question I think I can almost answer it but I miss one step:
Let $\partial M$ be a closed surface in $\mathbb{R}^3$, $x_0 \in \partial M$ than show this limit: $$\lim_{\substack{x\rightarrow x_0 \\ x\in M}} \int_{\partial M} \frac{1}{||y-x||} n_y \cdot \nabla_y \frac{-1}{||y-x||} dS_y = \lim_{\substack{x\rightarrow x_0 \\ x\in M}} \int_{\partial M} \frac{n_y \cdot (y-x)}{||y-x||^4} dS_y = \infty$$
The condition on $\partial M$ is free to choose. So suppose that it is smooth as much as you need. But ideally I would like to prove it for piece wise $C^1$ surface.
So has anybody idea how to show this limit?
Edit: Ok my best shot when $\partial M$ is convex. But I can't prove it yet, I'm experiencing the same problem as when I show that $\int_0^1 \frac{1}{t^\alpha} dt$ diverge(for $\alpha > 1 $) by this technique:
$$ \int_0^1 \frac{1}{t^\alpha} dt \geq \int_0^x \frac{1}{t^\alpha} dt \geq \frac{x}{x^\alpha} \rightarrow \infty$$
as $x$ goes to zero. But IT doesn't work for $\alpha =1$ yet the integral diverge.
So here goes my try, I need two lemmas about convex surfaces.
Lemma1: It is bound on how big can be angle between $n_y$ and $y-x$.
Let $\partial M$ is convex surface in $\mathbb{R}^n$. Than for every $x$ in interior of $\partial M$ ie $x\in M$. This inequality holds: $$ \forall y\in \partial M: n_y\cdot \frac{y-x}{\|y-x\|} \geq \frac{\min_{z\in \partial M} \|x-z\|}{\max_{z\in \partial M} \|x-z\|}\geq \frac{\text{dist}(x,\partial M)}{\text{diam}(\partial M)}$$ $n_y$ is outer normal at point $y$
This lemma is quite straight forward just draw a picture in 2d and you'll see it.
Lemma2: This is bound on how small can get and surface area of convex surface at vicinity of some point $x$
Let $\partial M$ is convex surface in $\mathbb{R}^n$ and $x$ is point in interior of $\partial M$ ie $x\in M$. Denote $\rho = \text{dist}(x,\partial M) = \text{dist}(x,x_0)$ for some $x_0 \in \partial M$. Than: $$\int_{\partial M \cap B(x_0,2\rho)} 1 \, dS \geq \alpha_{n-1} \left(\frac{\sqrt{3}}{2} \rho \right)^{n-1} $$ where $\alpha_n$ is volume of unit ball in $\mathbb{R}^n$.
Again draw this in 2d and you'll see it. Maybe I will add pictures if I find out how.
Now to the limit:"
denote $\rho = \text{dist}(x,\partial M)=\|x-x_0\|$, $D = \text{diam}(\partial M)$
$$ \int_{\partial M} \frac{1}{||y-x||} n_y \cdot \nabla_y \frac{-1}{||y-x||} dS_y = \int_{\partial M} \frac{n_y \cdot (y-x)}{||y-x||^4} dS_y \geq$$
$$ \int_{\partial M} \frac{n_y \cdot (y-x)}{||y-x||^4} dS_y \geq \int_{\partial M} \frac{\rho \|y-x\|}{D\|y-x\|^4} dS_y \geq $$
$$ \int_{\partial M \cap B(x_0,2\rho)} \frac{\rho \|y-x\|}{D\|y-x\|^4} dS_y \geq \int_{\partial M \cap B(x_0,2\rho)} \frac{\rho^2}{D 2^4 \rho^4} dS_y \geq$$
$$ \frac{\rho^2}{D 2^4 \rho^4} \int_{\partial M \cap B(x_0,2\rho)} dS_y \geq \frac{\rho^2}{D 2^4 \rho^4} \pi \left(\frac{\sqrt{3}}{2} \rho \right)^{2} = \frac{1}{D 2^4 } \pi \frac{3}{4}$$
But that does not got to infinity :((
I have one minor interesting observation. Let $\Gamma$ be any surface in $\mathbb{R}^3$. $\Gamma$ can be self intersecting for example: embedded Klein bottle in $\mathbb{R}^3$.
Than I think that
$$-\frac{1}{4\pi}\int_{\partial M} n_y \cdot \nabla_y \frac{1}{||y-x||} dS_y$$
is something like winding number of $\Gamma$ around $x$. Can anybody elaborate on that? What number would I get if $\Gamma$ would be Klein bottle? I think that Klein bottle doesn't have something like interior so is the integral zero everywhere? Therefore is it possible in 2D to have closed, regular $C^1$ curve that has empty interior?