I'm going to try to rewrite my question in a better way:
I have a set of $N$ boxes, and one of those boxes is filled. I sample the boxes with uniform probability and without replacement until I find the filled box. What is the mean and variance for the number of empty boxes I've opened? For example, if $N = 2$, and I open two boxes to find the full box, I've opened one empty box.
My guess is that I need to open $\mu = \frac{N}{2}$ boxes to find the full box. Thus, I need to open $\frac{N}{2}-1$ empty boxes prior to opening the full box. However, because each trial depends on the next, I don't know how to calculate the variance?
I suppose I'd like something like the negative binomial distribution, but where we're sampling without replacement?
Update: Byron Schmuland answers the first part of my question here: Expectation of number of trials before success in an urn problem without replacement
We just need to recast my empty boxes as "red" balls and my full box as a "blue" ball, and ask how many red balls we need to draw before we draw a "blue" ball. However, how might we calculate the variance?
the number of empty boxes I need to open. There are $N$ empty boxes hence $X=N+1$ is impossible. – Did May 05 '13 at 21:38