Let $x \in \mathbb R^n$ be a vector of random iid numbers, drawn from normal distribution with mean zero and variance 1, and let $A$ be symmetric $n$ by $n$ real matrix.
I want to show that $\operatorname{Var}(x^TAx) = 2\|A\|_F^2$
What I tried:
First, I'll mention that I already proved that $E[x^TAx] = Tr(A)$. I'll use it here.
$\operatorname{Var}[x^TAx] = E[(x^TAx)^2] - (E[x^TAx])^2 = E[x^TAxx^TAx] - (Tr(A))^2$
Since $A$ is symmetric, there's an orthonormal matrix $U$ and diagonal matrix $D$ such that $A = U^TDU$:
$E[x^TAxx^TAx] - (\operatorname{Tr}(A))^2 = E[x^TU^TDUxx^TU^TDUx] - (\operatorname{Tr}(A))^2 = \\ E[y^TDyy^TDy] - (\operatorname{Tr}(A))^2$
Where $y := Ux$, which is also iid random variables with zero mean and 1 variance.
$\displaystyle E[y^TDyy^TDy] - (\operatorname{Tr}(A))^2 = E[\sum_{i=1}^{n}\lambda_iy_i^2 \cdot\sum_{j=1}^{n}\lambda_j y_j^2] - (\operatorname{Tr}(A))^2 = \\ \displaystyle \sum_{i=1}^{n}\sum_{j=1}^{n}\lambda_i\lambda_jE[y_i^2y_j^2] - (\operatorname{Tr}(A))^2$
Since $y_i, y_j$ are iid, $E[y_i^2 y_j^2 ] = E[y_i^2]E[y_j^2] = 1$ and so we finally have
$\displaystyle \sum_{i=1}^{n}\sum_{j=1}^{n}\lambda_i\lambda_j - (\operatorname{Tr}(A))^2$
Now maybe I'm crazy, but isn't this zero?