I've proven that, given an equaliser diagram where the equaliser map $e : E \to X$ is an isomorphism, the equalised maps $f, g : X \to Y$ say, must be equal.
Conversely, if we assume the equalised maps $f$ and $g$ are already equal, I can find a (unique) right inverse $k : X \to E$ of $e$: $e \circ k = \text{id}_X$. First I thought that the uniqueness of $k$ would fix that this right inverse would also be a left-inverse of $e$, but I no longer think that to be true.
I now did realise that $X \xrightarrow{\text{id}_X} X\xrightarrow{f = g} Y$ is of course also an equaliser diagram. Thus, this yields a unique arrow $h : E \to X$ s.t. $\text{id}_X \circ h = e$. It seems to me the uniqueness and existence of these $h, k$ would now suffice to conclude that $e$ is an isomorphism. ($k = h^{-1} = e^{-1}.)$
But I didn't exactly find a left-inverse $h$ s.t. $h \circ e = \text{id}_E$, what I actually set out to do. So is this sufficient?
$\to$for $\to$ and$\circ$for $\circ$. It's strange that you have been here for so long and yet don't use these. – Shaun Jan 20 '23 at 21:30