I know that a dihedral group $D_{2n }$ is generated by rotation $r$ by $2\pi/n$ and reflection $s$ subject to relations $r^n = 1$, $s^2 = 1$, and $rs = sr^{-1}$. So a dihedral group $D_{2n}$ has a presentation $(r, s {\,|\,} r^n, s^2, (rs)^2)$. In other words, $$ D_{2n} \cong (r, s {\,|\,} r^n, s^2, (rs)^2) = F(r,s)/N $$ where $N$ is the smallest normal subgroup containing $\{r^n, s^2, (rs)^2\} \subset F(r, s)$. It is not difficult to show, without using the isomorphism, that there are at most $2n$ equivalence classes in $F(r,s)/N$, namely, $[r^is^j]$ for $i = 0, \dots, n-1$ and $j = 0, 1$. Then the isomorphism implies that all of them are distinct. Is it possible to show that these equivalence classes are all distinct without using the isomorphism? For example, how to show that $r \nsim ()$, or, equivalently, that $r \notin N$?
Edit: I don't think the link has an answer to my question. So let me rephrase it. Consider a free group $F(a,b)$. Let $N$ be the smallest normal subgroup that contains "words" $a^n$, $b^2$, and $(ab)^2$. Is it possible to show that $a \notin N$ without using any specific group "from nature"?