Consider the following matrices, $$H=\left(\begin{matrix} 1 & 0 \\ 0 & -1 \end{matrix}\right) \qquad X=\left(\begin{matrix} 0 & 1 \\ 0 & 0 \end{matrix}\right) \qquad Y=\left(\begin{matrix} 0 & 0 \\ 1 & 0 \end{matrix}\right) $$ Let $\rho:\mathfrak{su}(2)\rightarrow \text{End}(V)$ be a lie algebra homomorphism such that $\rho(X)^*=-\rho(X)$. Does this imply that $\rho(Y)^*=-\rho(Y)$?
I have been trying to use the commutation relations of $H,X,Y$ and the fact that $\rho$ is a lie algebra homomorphism to show this but I can't see to do it.
Am I overlooking something obvious here?