When asking whether two events are independent,
when you are able to compute the probability of each event and the
probability of the intersection of the events,
there really is only one question to ask:
Is $P(E \cap F) = P(E) P(F)$?
If the answer is yes, the events are independent, notwithstanding your ability to come up with a modified version of one of the events that looks just as good to you but is not independent from the other event.
If the answer is no, the events are dependent.
This is the definition of dependence. It has nothing to do with whether $E$ and $F$ have the "same sample space" or "different sample spaces." You can have independent events specified over the exact same set (used as a sample space),
as in your first example.
Alternatively, you can have dependent events specified over different sets (so that you have to use the Cartesian product of the sets in order to describe the complete sample space of the events).
If you use a different definition of independence, then you will not be able to properly understand or be understood by people who speak the language of mathematical probability. It would be as if a boy were raised to believe that "sit down" meant "leave the room." When he is older, at his first job interview, the interviewer says, "Would you like to sit down?" and he says, "No, I'd rather stay in the room." This sort of thing can cause all kinds of confusion.
One way to understand why $F$ as defined in the original example is independent of $E,$ while your modified $F$ is not,
is to look at how much $F$ "overlaps" $E$ relative to the size of $E.$
Specifically, in the original example, exactly half of the outcomes in $E$ are in $F,$ and since we suppose the outcomes are equally likely,
$F$ "overlaps" exactly half of the probability measure of $E.$
Since the probability of $F$ by itself is $\frac12,$ the formula
$P(E \cap F) = P(E) P(F)$ tells us that this exact amount of "overlap" is when we get independence.
When you give $F$ more than half of the outcomes in $E,$ rather than exactly half, you give it too much "overlap." If you were to change $F$ so that it is for the outcomes $7,\ldots,16,$ you would have too little "overlap."