Let $A \in \mathcal M(n \times n; \mathbb R)$ with $\rho(A) < 1$. Then we know $I \otimes I - A^T \otimes A^T$ is invertible where $\otimes$ denotes kronecker product. Let $\text{vec}$ denote the vectorization operation and $\mathcal T = (I \otimes I - A^T \otimes A^T)^{-1} : \mathbb R^{n^2} \to \mathbb R^{n^2}$. The operator norm of $\mathcal T$ is given by \begin{align*} \|\mathcal T\|_2 = \sup_{\|x\|_2=1} \|\mathcal Tx\|_2, \end{align*} where $x \in \mathbb R^{n^2}$. Let $\text{mat}$ denote the inverse operation of $\text{vec}$, i.e., stacking the elements into a matrix. Let $X = \text{mat}(x)$ where $X \in \mathcal M(n \times n)$. We note $\mathcal Tx$ is exactly the vectorization of $Y$ where $Y$ is the unique solution of \begin{align} \label{eq:1} \tag{$\star$} A^T Y A + X = Y. \end{align} The assumption on $A$ guarantees a unique solution.
My question is whether we can take $X$ to be symmetric to determine the operator norm of $\mathcal T$. That is, does the following hold \begin{align*} \|\mathcal T\|_2 = \sup \{\|Y\|_F: X \in \mathbb S_n, \|X\|_F=1\}, \end{align*} where $Y$ is the solution to \eqref{eq:1} and $\mathbb S_n$ denotes the set of symmetric matrices. If we let $c = \sup \{\|Y\|_F: X \in \mathbb S_n, \|X\|_F=1\}$, clearly $c \le \|\mathcal T\|_2$. Will the other way hold? $\mathcal T$ seems to have nice structure and it makes me wonder whether we can just consider supremum over this proper subset.
BOUNTY EDIT: This question has been a while. Loup Blanc has an excellent answer. I thought I understood his edit 2 before but actually it was misunderstanding. Now I am starting a bounty hoping someone (maybe loup himeself) could elaborate his Edit 2.