Define an infinite matrix $$ M = \begin{bmatrix} 0 & -1 & 0 & 0 & \cdots \\ 1 & 0 & -2 & 0 & \cdots \\ 0 & 2 & 0 & -3 & \cdots \\ 0 & 0 & 3 & 0 & \cdots \\ \vdots & \vdots & \vdots & \vdots & \ddots \\ \end{bmatrix}$$
Numerically, I've found that the first column of $\exp(M)$ is given by $\alpha(1,e^{-\lambda},e^{-2\lambda},e^{-3\lambda},\dots)^T$, where $\lambda \approx 0.27$ and $\alpha = \sqrt{1-e^{-2\lambda}} \approx 0.65$.
Question: How to prove analytically that the first column of $\exp(M)$ has the stated form?
[Context: This question comes from a quantum mechanical model of two harmonic oscillators coupled by a Hamiltonian of the form $\hat{H} \propto \hat{a}_1^\dagger \hat{a}_2^\dagger - \hat{a}_1 \hat{a}_2$, where $\hat{a}_i$ is the lowering operator for oscillator $i$. The matrix $M$ is precisely this Hamiltonian on the subspace spanned by $\{\left|nn\right>\}$. I've tried using a BCH approach, but was discouraged by the fact that the commutators are not very cooperative. The exponential coefficients in the first column indicates (roughly) a thermal state.]
Edit: I cross-posted this on mathoverflow, and got a beautiful solution by Jochen Glueck. The exact value of $\lambda$ is $-\ln(\tanh(1))$.